By Zemeghub Editorial
There are moments in life when everything we knew collapses. A loss. A rupture. A silence so deep it echoes through the bones. We try to hold on—to people, to plans, to the stories we told ourselves about how life was supposed to be. But grief has its own rhythm. It doesn’t ask for permission. It arrives like a tide, and we are swept into its current.
In those moments, surrender is not a concept. It’s a necessity.
But not the kind of surrender that feels like defeat. Not the kind that says, “I give up.” This surrender whispers, “I give in.” Into the pain. Into the mystery. Into the possibility that healing doesn’t come from fixing—but from feeling.
🌫️ When the Ground Gives Way
Grief is not linear. It doesn’t follow a script. It’s messy, sacred, and deeply human. And yet, in our culture of productivity and positivity, we often rush it. We want closure. We want to “move on.” But the soul doesn’t move on. It moves through.
To surrender in grief is to allow the ground to fall away—and trust that something deeper will catch us.
This is not weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s the kind of strength that doesn’t clench its fists, but opens its palms.
🧠 The Neuroscience of Emotional Release
When we suppress grief, the body remembers. Cortisol levels rise. The nervous system stays in fight-or-flight. But when we allow ourselves to feel—truly feel—the body begins to recalibrate.
Studies show that emotional surrender activates the parasympathetic nervous system, the part responsible for rest, digestion, and healing. Tears are not just emotional—they’re biochemical. They release stress hormones. They soften the body. They signal safety.
In this way, surrender is not just spiritual. It’s physiological. It’s how the body says, “I’m ready to heal.”
🕊️ Surrender as Sacred Practice
In Renatha E. Lollis’s Surrender: The Forgotten Spiritual Discipline, she writes not just about letting go—but about letting God in. Her words echo the ancient wisdom of mystics and prophets: that surrender is not abandonment. It’s alignment.
Whether you call it God, Source, Spirit, or simply Life—it is in the act of releasing control that we become available to grace.
Grief cracks us open. Surrender keeps us open.
🌱 What Emerges from the Ashes
A deeper compassion for ourselves and others.
A clarity that cannot be forced, only received.
A quiet strength that doesn’t need to prove itself.
We begin to understand that healing is not about returning to who we were. It’s about becoming who we’re meant to be.
📘 Want to Go Deeper?
If you are walking through grief—or supporting someone who is—Renatha E. Lollis’s Surrender: The Forgotten Spiritual Discipline offers more than comfort. It offers a path. A way to meet pain with presence, and to let faith do what force cannot.
🛒 and discover how surrender can turn even sorrow into sacred ground.